Etiquette & Customs of the Faelight Ball
The Faelight Ball is an evening shaped as much by its guests as by its setting. While there is no single way to behave or participate, a few shared customs help create an atmosphere that feels gracious, welcoming, and alive.
At its heart, etiquette at the Ball is simple: kindness is the highest form of magic.
The Spirit of the Ball
The Ball is a place of curiosity, generosity, and mutual respect.
Guests are invited to engage with one another - or not - as feels comfortable. Whether you choose to converse at length, dance freely, observe quietly, or move between spaces at your own pace, you belong here exactly as you are.
There is no expectation of historical accuracy or theatrical performance. Elegance is found not in perfection, but in grace.
Greetings & Conversation
Introductions are welcome, but never required.
You may address others formally, playfully, or simply by name; a smile and a greeting are always enough. Many guests enjoy commenting on music, attire, or the beauty of the space as an easy way to begin a conversation.
Just as invitations are welcome, so too is disengaging. A polite nod, a gentle excuse, or simply moving on is always acceptable and respected.
Dancing & Invitations
An invitation to dance is a gift, not a demand.
Dance invitations may be offered verbally, with a gesture, or by way of a dance card; and they may always be declined, graciously and without explanation. Watching the dance floor, resting between songs, or enjoying the music from the sidelines are all equally welcome ways to participate.
Dancing styles vary, and there is no expectation to know any particular steps. Joy and courtesy matter far more than form.
Small Courtesies & Tokens
Guests sometimes choose to exchange small courtesies: a compliment, a note, a flower, or a simple thank-you. These gestures are welcome but never expected.
If you choose to offer something, let it be light and freely given. If you receive one, acknowledgment and appreciation are more than enough.
Boundaries, Consent & Courtesy
Respect for personal boundaries is essential.
Consent matters in conversation, dancing, photography, and interaction of all kinds. If someone declines an invitation, changes their mind, or steps away, that choice should always be accepted with grace.
Likewise, you are never required to explain your boundaries. A simple “no, thank you” is complete in itself.
When in Doubt
If you’re ever unsure how to proceed, pause and observe.
Follow the lead of those around you, trust your instincts, and remember that staff and hosts are always nearby to assist. Above all, err toward kindness. When in doubt, courtesy is always correct.
A Final Thought
The customs of the Faelight Ball exist not to constrain, but to support a shared sense of wonder. When guests move through the night with care for one another, the evening becomes something rare: a place where beauty feels effortless, and everyone is welcome.